Husbands: Listen to your wives

It’s been almost a year now since God told me to leave my work, become a house husband, and continue studying part time. Been almost a year since God told me that my wife must return to full-time work. Been almost a year of living under one of the most amazing blessings that we have ever experienced. And been almost a year that I nearly missed it!!

You see, I believe that the man is the head of the household (see Ephesians 5:23-24). I believe that he has the final say on all things ‘household’. But I believe too that the flip-side of that authority is sacrifice, not power (see Ephesians 5:25). And so it was with this ‘head-of-the-household’ mentality that my wife and I fasted and prayed for finances. At the time, I was only working half a day to accommodate my studies, and my wife was working only part time as a nursing sister. But together, we were just not making ends meet.

We shared with each other in the weeks that followed, what we believed God was saying. My wife told me that her praying was quite deliberate into a full-time half-day position. I was not happy!!! Half-day for a nurse is actually about a two-thirds day for a ‘normal’ job, with no breaks. With her continuing household responsibilities, she was going to reach burnout very quickly. So I matter of factly told her that as the head of the household, I do not give her my blessing to pray for that.


My wife took it well (as a Godly women should).

God didn’t.

By the end of that very afternoon, as I was ‘righteously’ seeking God through my own prayer and fasting, God clearly spoke to me and told me to allow my wife to pray for work. And the rest is for another testimony.

The point is that God uses people to speak to us. It may be your wife, your friend, your children, or even a complete stranger. As long as YOU are open to hearing God and are not being biased in who you are prepared to receive council from, then you will hear God speaking to you through people. And if they have been seeking God specifically on your behalf, then there is an even greater assurance that God can use them to speak to you.

But remember – it is not what they say but what the Holy Spirit impresses upon you that turns their words into God’s words. And make sure to test what they say with God’s Word; if it is does not line up with Scripture, then you can be assured that you are NOT hearing God through them.

Probably the greatest Biblical account of God speaking through another person, so happens to be a wife as well – Mary. Mary is told how she will miraculously conceive (see Luke 1:26-38). Then in Matthew 1:20 we read that Joseph considered what had happened (and most likely Mary’s account of what the angel had said to her). It would thus be fair to say that she was giving a testimony that God had spoken to her. And we read further that after he had considered these things, an angel appeared to him too and confirmed what had been spoken to Mary. God had spoken through Mary to Joseph.

Has God used other people to speak to you? Are you ready to be used by God to speak to other people? You can leave a comment by clicking here.

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Scripture references:
Unless otherwise noted, all references are from the New International Version

Ephesians 5:23-24 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. (24) Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.

Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her

Luke 1:26-38 In the sixth month, God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth, a town in Galilee, (27) to a virgin pledged to be married to a man named Joseph, a descendant of David. The virgin’s name was Mary. (28) The angel went to her and said, “Greetings, you who are highly favored! The Lord is with you.” (29) Mary was greatly troubled at his words and wondered what kind of greeting this might be. (30) But the angel said to her, “Do not be afraid, Mary, you have found favor with God. (31) You will be with child and give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus. (32) He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, (33) and he will reign over the house of Jacob forever; his kingdom will never end.” (34) “How will this be,” Mary asked the angel, “since I am a virgin?” (35) The angel answered, “The Holy Spirit will come upon you, and the power of the Most High will overshadow you. So the holy one to be born will be called the Son of God. (36) Even Elizabeth your relative is going to have a child in her old age, and she who was said to be barren is in her sixth month. (37) For nothing is impossible with God.” (38) “I am the Lord’s servant,” Mary answered. “May it be to me as you have said.” Then the angel left her.

Matthew 1:20 But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream and said, “Joseph son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary home as your wife, because what is conceived in her is from the Holy Spirit.


About Darryl Schoeman

My Personal Life : challenge leads to thought and thought leads to change More than the Apostle Paul, I can say that I am the chief of sinners (really really really). But I love God and I love the Bible. So I try to live my life with the constant realisation that God is PERMANENTLY with me (yes even when I sin), and seek His presence in everything that I do (except when I sin) and in everything that happens. I share this with others so that they too can believe it and then seek to live it.

Posted on April 10, 2012, in Christianity, Living the Word, Practical Faith and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 1 Comment.

  1. Great post Darryl! I look forward to reading more of your blog! May the Lord bless you! –Sebastian

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