Category Archives: Biblical Philosophy

Does familiarity really breed contempt?


I don’t know if I can agree with the concept that familiarity breeds contempt. I mean, I get what they’re trying to say with the whole thing, but instead of highlighting the true root problem, they’re attacking the relational aspect of human character. And the bigger problem for me is that by attacking the relational aspect of human nature, they are essentially attacking the image of God created in us, in humans.

You see, familiarity breeds familiarity, not contempt. Unfulfilled expectation breeds contempt. And expectations are at the end of it all, self centred. This is the root problem. People don’t fall out of love because they spend too much time with each other, but because one of them expects, desires or demands more from the other person (see Philippians 2:3-4).

Indeed, in an environment of love, familiarity should be breed commonality, fulfilment and contentment. People should be so aware of what the other’s passions, dreams and desires are, that they are moving towards fulfilling it, therein then becoming one in mind with the other. They then become familiar (that is like minded or the same) with the other (see 2 Corinthians 13:11 & 1 Peter 3:8).

Marriage teaches us this very thing. Some people like Paul know it instinctively (by the grace of God). Others need marriage to teach them it. So too, when we give up our own expectations of God, we can become familiar in spirit with Him and therein attain the goals that He wishes to attain (Philippians 1:27).

If familiarity did indeed breed contempt, then eternity would be a very awful place; for how could we be expected to live for eternity with a familiar God if all it did was lead to a distaste of Him?

my name is darryl
and this is what i have to say

Scripture references:
Unless otherwise noted, all references are from the New King James Version

Philippians 2:3-4 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. (4) Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.

2 Corinthians 13:11 … Become complete. Be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and peace will be with you.

1 Peter 3:8 Finally, all of you be of one mind, having compassion for one another; love as brothers, be tenderhearted, be courteous;

Philippians 1:27 Only let your conduct be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of your affairs, that you stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel,

Death defines life (just a thought)


The philosopher Albert Camus once wryly stated that “Death is philosophy’s only problem”. The ‘finality’ of death lies at the very core of why so many people spend their entire lives trying to find the meaning of life; if death is the end of it all, what is the purpose of it all? To a large extent then, death defines life. But if death can be conquered, then life itself [and the purpose thereof] can be redefined (Ravi Zacharias).

Jesus conquered death. He offers you the same. Won’t you accept it.

my name is darryl
and this is what i have to say

Certain of my uncertainty


In trying to comprehend God, I have come to this conclusion: I am certain of my uncertainty. For any god that can be understood by a finite human mind, is not an infinite god, and therefore not God.

Special revelation leads to a divine description of God


It is only at the point of special revelation that general revelation gets a “personality”. Only when God chooses to make Himself known through self-disclosure, can mankind construct any form of a truly “divine description” of God.

This was a thought that I wrote down to use in my latest assignment, but am not going to be able to insert it to be used. But I thought to share it somewhere. Where better than on the WWW?

my name is darryl
and this is what i have to say

Why is God not giving me my heart’s desires?


I got chatting with one of the parents at Tim’s school this morning about dream cars, and as we were leaving, he commented that the Bible says that God will give us the desires of our heart (Psalms 37:4), not our dreams. I walked away thinking/praying, “But aren’t they the same thing?” The more I meditated on it though, the more the Holy Spirit brought verses to mind that contradicted my own personal thinking.

And I came to the realisation that that is probably why a lot of people’s desires are not met by God – because they are originating in their own personal dream desires (mind) and not in their heart’s desires (spirit). The Bible is clear that there is a distinction between our mind and our heart. Consider the command to love the Lord our God with all our heart, soul and strength (Deuteronomy 6:5). Jesus repeated this command with the words heart, soul and mind (Matthew 22:37).

We know that our mind is controlled by our own will because we have control over what we think. Our (mind) dreams, then, are the product of our wills. If that be the case, what is “controlling” our hearts?

It is my opinion (and my opinion only at this point in time) that the heart of a person, whose life is not dedicated to God through Christ, is controlled by their own mind – their heart and their mind are one. Their own will is driving their heart’s desires. But, a person who has a personal relationship with Jesus, is being Spirit led. Their heart is being impacted by the Holy Spirit. Their heart’s desires therefore do not originate in their own will, but in the will of God. And when we pray in accordance with God’s will (what has now become our heart’s desire), He fulfils it – He gives us the desires of our heart.

my name is darryl
and this is what I have to say

PS – this is by no means a full and complete exposition of this topic. It is however, what simply came to mind. It therefore needs to be expounded and expanded more. But it is thought provoking none the less 😉

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